Thursday, January 28, 2016

Time to Shine!

We are all so broken. Cracked. Weak. Imperfect.

When we pretend not to be, we're lying to ourselves and to others. Some may believe the lie, but others can see the truth. We're frauds.
It is in our brokenness that God shines brightest through the cracks, if we let Him.

For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of God’s glory displayed in the face of Christ. 2 Corinthians 4:6

Our weakness, woundedness, and flaws are the openings through which He shines.

Don't try so hard to hide the cracks. Just breathe, realize that we're all flawed, and the cracks are there for a reason.
Let Him do the work and shine.

Friday, January 01, 2016

Word of The Year suggestions - 2016

Words are powerful. We have a whole business dedicated to word jewelry.

So many of you choose a Word Of The Year rather than traditional resolutions... a word to inspire you, remind you, challenge you.
A simple word to change your life.

I love doing this too.
One of the best things is when a word or phrase appears to you again and again, and you KNOW it's meant to be used.

Some years the word jumps out and smacks you in the head. Some years you search and contemplate for months to find the right word.
Some years the word seems to find you. (last year my word was "journey". I had no idea why it hit me, but it did. And WOW, was 2015 a journey!)

This year my word came back around to me over and over, begging to be chosen. Fun.
Be more fun.
Have more fun.
Find more fun.
Search for fun.
Simple as that.

As always, we have a new design for your One Little Word.

This year it's called My Heart In a Word.

If you haven't chosen a word, or if a word hasn't chosen you yet, here are some suggestions. Maybe one of them will trigger something for you.


Have you picked a word? We'd love to hear!

Thursday, December 31, 2015

When I'm not the center of the universe.

The other day I asked on Facebook "Describe your 2015 in one word."
I was shocked at the results. I expected to hear more positive things, and there were a few.
A few people said "blessed" or "productive".
But the overwhelming responses were not as glowing.

challenging. drama. exhausting. stressful. tough. messy. ugh. sad. grief. difficult. lonely. crap-tastic. sucked. gut-wrenching. disappointing. broken.

These were a few of them.

I know I had a brutal year. My year might be described in those words above.
But it became apparent to me that I'm not the only one. Imagine that, Beki. You're not the center of the universe.
I had no idea that so many other people were struggling.
Yes, life has beat me down lately. But instead of wallowing in it, I should re-shift my focus to encouraging others. Because it's clear that a lot of us need more love, support, grace, and laughter in our lives.

I would like to challenge you to do the same. Breathe life into others.
Maybe by the end of 2016 more of us will use words like accomplished. successful. laughter. joyful. glee. peace. loved. to describe our year.

Monday, December 28, 2015

Weight loss.... Let's discuss again!

Last year at this time, I blogged that I had been losing weight. I'd done it quietly up until that point.
The truth is I don't like talking about this subject at all. I'm embarrassed of how out of shape I was.

You can see my original weight loss post here.

As of today, I'm down 42 lbs.
I'm 5'3" and as I've gotten smaller, the weight loss has certainly decreased in speed.
I'm a mom of 3 and run 3 businesses. Just like you, I don't have time. But I make it.

This year I focused more on toning and muscle gain and was fairly happy with the results. (I could have had much greater results if I didn't love food so much...)

(what you don't see here... good lighting. I have more than my fair share of jiggle, squish, cellulite, and stretch marks. I'm painfully real.)

- I don't belong to a gym, don't have a trainer, don't take any special shakes or pills, don't do dvd's. (there's nothing wrong with them, they just bore me.) I'm not selling anything.

- It's taken me about a year and a half. I don't really "run" but I'm a big fan of interval training. Walk/jog intervals (wogging) - walk for a few minutes, jog for a few minutes, walk for a few more, etc.
I generally do 1.25 miles a day. (not much!!) I prefer to be outside, but if the weather doesn't cooperate I do it on the treadmill.
After that I'm more focused on strength training and I change that up quite a bit.

- I do a lot of squats, jump squats, weighted squats, and lunges. Occasional burpees.

- Push-ups. Lots of those too. And inverted push-ups where my feet are elevated on a step, chair, or bed.

- Abs: I hardly ever do them. I should, but usually just forget or wimp out. Maybe soon I'll start doing more crunches.

- I do a little bit of boxing.

- I generally only do about 25-35 minutes a day. Usually it's 7 days a week, but occasionally I take a day off. Honestly, I don't like the way I feel when I take a day off. But sometimes it's necessary.

- I know that my time is extremely limited, so I try to make those 25-35 minutes as intense as possible.

FOOD: I like it. I like it a lot. And I eat a lot.
Goodness knows I eat "real" food...normal food. Burgers, tacos, pasta, steak, etc. I do try to keep my protein amounts high simply I hate feeling hungry. I work out so hard, I get hungry a lot. High protein helps combat that. I enjoy ALL food groups and don't eliminate anything from my diet.
I eat carbs, sugar, and fat.

I eat salads, but probably not as many as I should. Usually I try to have a glass of water or piece of fruit with a meal. And I make myself eat the fruit first, before the good tasting stuff, because otherwise I just won't eat it.
I don't count calories, but do pay loose attention to them when possible.

If something tastes amazing, it's worth the work it'll take me to burn it off. If I take a bite or two of something and it just tastes "meh", I move on. As spoiled Americans we generally have plenty of food around us. I try not to waste my caloric budget.

If you'd like to see all the posts I've done about weight loss, click here.

Truly, it's just a mind shift. There's something incredibly empowering about setting your mind to something and achieving it. Sure, I've had my frustrations along the way but I've pushed through. Worked harder. Dug deeper.

I probably have about 5-7 more pounds I could lose, but I'm not super concerned about the scale these days. My focus for 2016 is to see more muscle definition.
I promise you, if I can do it, you can too! 

Do you have any specific questions? I'll try to help!

Monday, December 21, 2015

When you're broken.

Did you feel like 2015 was unkind to you? Did it beat you down?
Maybe it wasn't the entire year, but a few months. Maybe a few weeks. Maybe just the holiday season.
If you're at rock bottom, feeling broken, you're not alone.

I don't know why certain seasons of life are so hard. But they're just that - seasons.
And seasons change.

Then my enemies will turn back when I call for help. By this I will know that God is for me. Psalm 56:9

What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? Romans 8:31

Maybe we reach such low places to enlighten us on how good the good really is.
Maybe it strengthens us.
Maybe it humbles us and forces us to realize we need help sometimes.

I don't know what it is. But know this: you're not broken, just bent.
Things will improve and you will see the sun shine again.
Your wings will carry you, even though right now it doesn't feel like they will.

You've got this. Better things are so close, even if you can't see it now.