Sunday, July 01, 2007

Mothers and daughters....

Occasionally The Girl and I have a little 'girl date'. She enjoys this time so much!! Of course I always try to make it special, but it's generally just typical errands and boring things that I turn into a girl date. Yesterday we got to go on one. (Okay, we had The Baby with us, but we still counted it as a girl date.) We visited several stores, talked about fun girly things, went to dinner and shared a virgin strawbery dacquiri, and I just fell more in love with her by the minute.

At one point we were driving and a car in front of us had 3 young men in it who kept trying to get our attention. It finally dawned on me that they were hitting on me! As funny and strange as it was, it's true. (Okay, I'm not exactly an ogre, but I'm no Eva Longoria either.) Being only 7 years old, this isn't something she's really seen before, especially with her Mom! EWWWW! She picked up on it too and laughed about "those guys must not know you're married and they want to be your boyfriend!" It opened up the opportunity to talk with her about being a good wife and what that means on so many different levels. It occured to me that I've never really had a conversation with her about this before. I suppose I always thought she'd just learn by example. But I did get to talk with her about the importance of not letting yourself go just because you're married. It's important to have self esteem and want to look nice for your husband. When you feel better about yourself, others respond to you differently. She really seemed to "get it". Smart kid, that one.

Anyway, it reminded me of this song by Martina McBride. It also reminded me that if I'm hoping to teach by example, I better keep that in the front of my mind every single day with everything I do. I suppose I've been lax about that lately, but if I want my children to turn into what I have envisioned for them, I better take active steps daily to help encourage those things. As the saying goes, the days are long but the years are short. Before I know it, these years will be past me and I'll be left wondering where all those long days went.

(James Slater)

In my daughter's eyes I am a hero
I am strong and wise and I know no fear
But the truth is plain to see
She was sent to rescue me
I see who I wanna be
In my daughter's eyes

In my daughter's eyes everyone is equal
Darkness turns to light and the
world is at peace
This miracle God gave to me gives me
strength when I am weak
I find reason to believe
In my daughter's eyes

And when she wraps her hand
around my finger
Oh it puts a smile in my heart
Everything becomes a little clearer
I realize what life is all about

It's hangin' on when your heart
has had enough
It's giving more when you feel like giving up
I've seen the light
It's in my daughter's eyes

In my daughter's eyes I can see the future
A reflection of who I am and what will be
Though she'll grow and someday leave
Maybe raise a family
When I'm gone I hope you see how happy
she made me
For I'll be there
In my daughter's eyes


Christine said...

Great story. Your little one is very persecptive. And you're beautiful! That is one of my favorite songs.

Morgan said...

Wow, great post Beki! I can't believe there aren't more comments here.

I love to hear personal tidbits like this about other moms, my friends, who have the same goals and values as I do in raising our children.

I totally love the "falling more in love with her by the minute" And I'm cracking up that it took you so long to "get it" that you were being hit on.

It's so easy to let the older one(s) slide a bit with a new baby grabbing up all the attention, I really needed this little inspirational push to spend more special times with Maddie. Thanks, my friend!

I'll have to post about what we do on our next girl date.