Monday, March 10, 2014

Working at Taco Bell.

I sometimes hear "I don't know how you do it all! The barn, the weddings, the photography, the jewelry - I just don't know how you do it all."
And here's the truth: I don't!

I really don't do it all.
The other day, waiting at the Taco Bell drive through window, picking up dinner for my family, I was on my phone working.
And it hit me. I'm never really not working.
It wasn't a bitter "oh poor me... I never get a break" moment. Quite the opposite. It was a "I can't believe I'm blessed enough to live my dream... I can't believe in this day and age I can actually work from my smart phone in the drive through lane of Taco Bell" moment.

I have a team of people that make jewelry. Answer emails. Help keep up social media pages.
I assign chores to the kids. (not that they always do them, of course... but I try.)
The Man does nearly all the laundry in our home.
I try to make most meals at home but on occasion when things get out of control, I have to grab fast food.
The kids are responsible for giving me permission slips and reminding me of school meetings or sporting events. If they don't remind me, it's likely they won't get to attend.
I require that they help keep me on track. It teaches responsibility because one person can't do it all. And shouldn't.

Here's a dirty little secret: I don't believe the idea that women can have it all.
It's a lie.
We can't. And if you're always trying to have it all, you'll end up frustrated and disappointed.
As with anything in life, it's about balance. Am I always good at balance? Heck no!

For everything you decide to do, there's something else you have to decide not to do.
For everything you give a yes, you're giving something else a no.
I fight tooth and nail for my business. I work from the time I wake up in the morning until my head hits the pillow at night, and even then sometimes I'm still working.
But my house is rarely neat and tidy. I rarely watch tv. I see an entire movie about 3 times a year.

I make sure to have quality conversations with the kids in the car.
I carve out time for The Man.
I try to read several times a week and spend time in prayer.
I try to find beauty in the simplest everyday moments.
But sometimes there simply isn't enough time in a day to exercise.
Heck, sometimes there isn't enough time for a shower! (thank you, Universe, for dry shampoo.)
It's waves. It's give and take. It's ebbs and flows. It's "choosing your battles".
It's "what needs my attention the most today?".

It's all about balance and priorities.
And sometimes it's Taco Bell to the rescue.

1 comment:

.....Elizabeth..... Polka Dot Skies said...

I constantly struggle to find balance. Thank you for being " real "! I love the last photo of the kitten!